I'm familiar with the commentary that you can't tell a wheat plant from a tare plant until it is fully mature, and I wonder if we are just maturing in this life, or are we sometimes changing from one plant to another depending on our choices?
Jesus Christ's analogies are of us being shepherds, care-takers, gardeners, nurturers and planters, so it seems like we just help people mature into their best selves.
Is it more like we choose what plants we are going to let grow inside of ourselves? I think the implications of understanding this question are big. I believe people can change and I love to see positive change. I'm not averse to helping clients identify crises appearing on the horizon so people will be more motivated to change. However, I don't fool myself when I see someone who honestly isn't interested in changing and wants to follow their own path. I will help them as long as I can. I don't think I'm judging them as a tare, but neither am I going to assume that they are a wheat who is slacking. Heck, I don't think I even know that I could distinguish a mature wheat from a mature tare. Let me know what you think, I'm interested in all sides of this argument.